Jennifer, I’m so glad that you wrote. Obviously I empathise with a lot of what you’re saying! It’s amazing how – even with everything I intellectually know and all the perspectives I can see it from – I can still manage to summon up the shame and guilt. (I don’t think I’m ‘summoning’ it, actually, it just shows up of its own accord.) I’m glad that you’ve been able to do work that’s allowed you to get some peace with it – for me, I’ve largely suppressed it all until the recent Radio 4 piece! Thanks for taking the time to write and share, in empathy and sympathy. All the best to you & yours!