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Four Signs that You Need to Change Your Life
The clues are there. Here’s why you need to be willing to look at them.
Two years ago, I was in a dead-end job. I can say that now, but I didn’t get it then. You see, on paper, it didn’t look a dead-end job — it looked like success. People didn’t seem to see it as a dead-end job — they were impressed. If I wasn’t feeling happy, fulfilled, and satisfied in my career, I figured, there must just be something wrong with me. So I just did more and worked harder.
I was incredibly busy, producing lots, advancing incredibly fast. Other people readily provided me with plenty of supportive feedback.
‘I don’t know how you do it!’ they’d say, amazed and admiring, and I’d bask in the glow of this positive reinforcement.
‘I’m not doing anything like that much,’ they’d say, insecure and envious. I’d rush to reassure them, and to encourage them to do more themselves.
But what looked like success and productivity was driving me into the ground. I was on automatic pilot, falling asleep at the wheel of my own life.
In Prochaska & DiClemente’s well-known model of behaviour change, which you can read more about here, I was firmly in the pre-contemplation stage.
